Dear George,
I’m 53. Here’s my conundrum.
Early in my life I was handed a list of things I must accomplish to be a valid, worthwhile man. I’m not sure when or how I received it.
I know part of it came from my parents and grandparents. I know part of it came from where I grew up. I might have even created part of it myself through observation and conclusion.
What I know for sure is that it has dominated and driven most of my 53 years of life!
The list included:
- Get good grades and the right education
- Get the right profession and job
- Marry the right woman
- Be a great father
- Be a recognized community citizen
- Amass the proofs and validations of real manhood: financial, social, professional, athletic
- Don’t ever embarrass us. Make us proud.
- Never stop achieving
I now find, at age 53, that I’ve checked everything off the list. I’ve worked my butt off.
My conundrum is that I only know how to feel alive if I’m in motion and achieving AND that way of being on this planet is no longer satisfying for me.
For openers, it’s all about external proof (Boy, am I tired of external proof!). Second, I think it’s time for me to find some other way to live and feel satisfied. I never saw this coming. It’s a revelation.
I feel like I’m stuck on a hamster wheel and I’m the only one who can get me off of it. Am I the only one who feels this way?
Signed,
R.R.
It’s May again, the month of Mother’s Day. My own mother, Laura Elizabeth Polson Schofield (known to friends and family as Betty), has been gone for nearly 30 years, almost half my lifetime.
Yet, she never totally left.
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Gold Medal Grandparenting is a revolutionary way for you to have a great relationship with your grandchildren and to have a great quality of life at the same time.
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“You have been telling the people that this is the Eleventh Hour, now you must go back and tell the people that this is THE HOUR. And there are things to be considered…”
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Be careful of the stories you tell about yourself and your life (as well as what you hear other people tell about you).
The stories are powerful. If you are not aware of the power of the stories, you risk believing them as absolute truth.
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Suppose you were driving an underpowered 1962 Plymouth and suddenly discovered yourself in today’s heavy, fast-moving freeway traffic. Would your vehicle be up to the situation? Cars and questions are both vehicles to take us somewhere we need to be.
A reporter recently requested an interview with me about jobs and work After 50. His questions:
- What are the best jobs for people over 50?
- How much can they make?
- How can they be assured the jobs are permanent?
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Upcoming LIVE Seminar this Thursday evening, March 22 at 8:30pm (ET) / 5:30pm (PT)
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Yesterday was the 3rd anniversary of our move across the country to our new home and life. After many years in San Francisco – and with no intention of retiring – we relocated to Sarasota, Florida. Many of our friends thought we were nuts. They still do.
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Posted in blog, community, family, and friends, creating the life you want, discovering or reinventing yourself, finding or creating work and making money, getting ready for your future, health and dealing with change, living with your adult children, losing people you love, moving or relocating, retiring or not retiring, taking care of your parents, working longer than you thought
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Tagged creating the life you want, finding a new home, moving, relocating
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If you’re over 50, and you want (or need) to get a job, more work,
or to change employment, I have a new video seminar that I’d like
to share with you. In it, I’ll be letting you know about 5 ways to
find or create work and make money in the current economy.
(It’s a mix of traditional and nontraditional options for finding or
creating the work you want.)
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Tagged coaching, consulting, employment over 50, entrepreneur, jobs over 50, self employed, work after 50
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Good friends of ours want to sell their large house and buy a condo. The Realtor asked the wife what she wanted in her new condo kitchen. “I’m retired. Ask my husband. He cooks,” was the reply. A kitchen designer recently inquired of my wife, Brown Eyes, what she wanted from her kitchen. Her kitchen? I cook. I’m tidy. Brown Eyes arranges the kitchen and pantry to her satisfaction and cleans up after me. We’ve happily lived this way for many years.
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